"The Ten Commandments of Wedding Planning"

“The Ten Commandments of Wedding Planning

Pam Archer, Author

1.      Thou Shalt Not Marry – because you are expected to, or feel that it will make you happy or fulfill you.  You have to be happy with yourself, before you can be happy with anyone else.

2.      Thou Shalt Not Buy - before doing thorough research on what things are going to cost.  You will run out of money before you get to the third thing on your list, if you don’t.

3.      Thou Shalt Multiply before Inviting – Feeding the 5,000 is not something you do every day, so knowing how much it costs to do so is an eye-opener.  To put it in perspective, how much money would it require to take 300 people to McDonalds?  Now, you are thinking realistically!

4.      Thou Shalt Thinketh before Thou Asketh – everybody and their brother and sister to be in your wedding.  Multiply the number of attendants by the cost of buying them a gift, meals at the rehearsal dinner and wedding, bouquets, boutonnieres, you get the idea.

5.      Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery – but if they did, you probably should not seat your parents and their new spouse/s at the same table. 

Note to all:  your wedding day is the day for everyone to suck it up and get along, for the sake of you!

6.      Thou Shalt No Covet – everything your friend had at her million dollar wedding.  Lavish does not always equal elegant, or intimacy.  Your wedding can be just as beautiful by making it personal to you and your fiancé.

7.      Thou Shalt Divide and Conquer – don’t try to do everything yourself.  You will be stressed, and not be able to enjoy your wedding day.  Assign details to friends and family, and rely on your wedding planner to make sure they are done.  Yes, I said ‘your wedding planner’.  Hire one!  He or she will save you hundreds of dollars, and many hours of time.

8.      Thou Shalt Not Have Screaming, Crying Kids at Your Wedding – unless you hire a sitter, and have activities and kid food at the reception.  Your “I Do” will sound like “I WAAAAAAAAAAAAA”, or not be heard at all!

9.      Thou Shalt not be a Bride-zilla – if you expect those around you to be happy for you.  You can rest assured that your vendors won’t bend over backwards for you.  Have you never heard that you attract more flies with honey that you do with buttermilk?  Be nice.

10.  Thou Shalt Learn How to Compromise – The wedding is merely the door to the reality called life.  If you can’t compromise on things like who’s going to be in your wedding, or invited to your wedding, or which colors to choose, you will have difficulty staying married.  Marriage is compromise.

I wish many blessings on you and your fiancé, as you begin this amazing journey called marriage.  Stay the course and finish the race…together! – Pam Archer

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